does anyone else find it hard to moan in bed?
how to moan in bed
i dont think it comes very naturally to me…or something.
instead of moaning, i usually kind of bite my lip or grab onto something tightly….i cant vocalize my pleasure…if that makes sense..
…just wondering if anyone else feels the same way…or if they know how i can become more confident with my noises..
(my boyfriend likes it when i make noise, but i feel like its forced still)
do u guys find it easy to be loud?
(im not even that introverted normally, i just feel like any sounds get caught in my throat..)
..sorry this is long..
My wife moans all the time.
wow i think your hot i would be happy just being your bf
lol
Mmm, at the beginning of my current relationship, because I was self conscious and the experience was new.
Afterwards? not at all. My partner’s liking my vocalizations made me feel less inhibited, also. =]
But hey, that doesn’t mean you’re abnormal or anything. If it feels too forced and you’re just not into it, you don’t have to do it. For some people (like me) knowing my bf likes it, and knowing that arouses him (and me) more when I do it is just extra incentive. =P
If you wanted to try, you could start out slow, like with "ohhh" or "ahh" or "mmmm". Something that isn’t explicit, or complicated, but is still being vocal. Of course, breathing through your mouth certainly helps (in general) during sex. Also, it’s commonly stated that women tend to not focus on simply the sex, and the feeling, during the time when it’s occuring. They find themselves thinking of other things (like what dinner was like, how the day at work/school went, etc). Make it a priority to forget the world when you two are intimate. Forget everything you have to do, everything that is bothering you, just everything. Focus just on him, the situation, your love, and how great it feels.
People differ when it comes to this (like most things). You shouldn’t be fake. Do what feels natural, and just enjoy it. Don’t over-think things.
well, its different for every one, try saying ‘mmm’ or ‘oooh’, not wales or screams, just start out little and work your way up, or talk to him, tell him how you like what hes doing, tell him where and more or right there or w.e……. not everyone can be a screamer
that’s completely fine… not everyone makes noise.
if your bf likes it, well it’s ok to kinda force it if it’s something that makes him happy…
just try to relax, breathe through your mouth, and let it out.
here’s an idea, maybe get him to give you a back massage or something… get used to making a little noise that way, just let out an "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh" when he rubs your shoulders or back and it feels good… then kinda learn to do the same thing during sex
I am a silent person when I orgasm but really love the feeling. My partner is very vocal and makes heaps of noises. She always asks if I enjoy it as she thinks I don’t but I am now coming to the conclusion that I really need to let go,so join the throng and yell out loud it adds to the feeling!!!
Not everyone is a "moaner". Yes the guys like to hear noise, but as long as you don’t "just lie there" they will be happy. Don’t feel you need to make noise to be involved, if noise isn’t your thing, maybe try dragging your nails across his buttocks, or his shoulders. This drives my boyfriend nuts…. and no I don’t dig my nails in and leave marks either. But in the moment, it really gets his blood boiling.
lol omg i know what you mean i justtt grab onto my bf tightly
Find a place all to yourself. Then you can be loud and not feel like anyone is listening. Try giving some direction, faster, harder, slower…. that way you can make noise and be getting something in return. The more you do that the more you will learn to voice yourself in bed. When you are ready to orgasm, just SCREAM.
I know you probably feel silly making noise and thats the major hold up. Trust me you could say the dumbest thing on earth as long as you are naked and also yelling you are cu mming no guy will care if you sound silly and will most likely feel like stud because he was sooo good he made you babble…lol.
Sounds of pleasure turn a guy on A LOT. Just watch a porn and you will see what I mean. All the girls make noise even if it is SO obvious that it’s fake, guys still like it and still watch.
Yeah, I do the same thing. I mean, I get that some guys find it sexy, but a lot of men have told me that they don’t like it when a girl fakes anything in bed. You don’t even have to be super loud to show your pleasure. There are other little things like facial expressions, sighing, or using your hands that can be just as sexy. Like, sometimes if he’s on top I’ll kinda wrap my arms around his shoulders and pull him closer or just run my hands all over him. Or maybe your guy’s into scratching? Idk, but don’t force yourself. If you do, you’ll be focusing on making noises rather than really enjoying yourself. I think your guy would prefer to have you satisfied and kinda quiet rather than fake and noisy.
i am the same way i can moan and stuff if i fake it. but its got to be really good sex to make me moan,
and most of the time i do bite my lip and grab on to something if the guy is being to rough, if he isn’t being to rough i usually just breath kinda fast and let out small oh yeahs or that feels good but i don’t get loud
From what I’ve read, you like release hormones or something when you moan and then you orgasm easier or something. So when you’re biting your lip or grabbing a pillow, I’m assuming you’re holding your breath. So when you do that, just breath and the moans will start to come and all’s well.
I’m naturally fairly quiet as well. If the guy you’re with can’t accept that or wants you to fake it, you may want to reconsider the relationship. That was a HUGE red flag with my ex; he would actually take it as far as feeding me lines during sex because he didn’t like that I didn’t naturally sound like (or have any desire to sound like) a superficial, orgasm-faking porn star. My current mate is equally muted and utterly turned off by exceedingly vocal sex, making the pair of us quite happy in this respect; there’s no reason you should have to change your proclivities to suit some modern, fabricated concept of what a woman "should" sound like in bed. There is no "normal" when it comes to these things, and there are plenty of women who aren’t very vocal. As long as you’re communicating somehow regarding what’s working and what isn’t, then there shouldn’t be any complaints whatsoever with going about things in a manner that makes you comfortable.
(This is entirely off topic, but is your user name a Tool reference, by chance? ^-^)
lol
It’s hard not to scream at certain times, but percentage wise with time, quiet is natural.
He probably watches porn.
Don’t over think it, I used to be just like that, I was afraid he’d be like "ew that was a moan?" but really, guys LOVE when you make sound so don’t be nervous. And don’t think about it to much it makes the sex suck. I still grab on to stuff and bit my lip like you, but I also let myself free.
Whenever you’re freaking out cuz youre holding it all in, just think OMGGG I’M LOVING THIS and think about him and what’s goin on AT THAT EXACT MOMENT. it helps, trust me!!!!
I’ll make you moan
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